WHAT ARE PARENTS' ROLES IN THEIR CHILDREND'S LIVE?

1. As you learned at his birth that without your constant care, your baby would not survive on his own: you fed him and nurse him 24h and 7/7 days. This role is for his survival physically.

2.   BUT WHAT ABOUT HIS INNER PERSONALITY NEEDS?
As you fed your baby, you also need to nurture his emotions and balance his will.  

HOW CAN YOU NURTURE HIS EMOTIONAL NEEDS?
You learn to decode his cries, his laughs and his temper as your baby grows.
When your baby cries: as he can’t speak yet, he is expressing his needs.
Feed him if 3 hours have gone or check if his diapers need to be changed.
If he continues to cry, he may have gas in his tummy: massage slowly his tummy and lay him down on his tummy to warm it up as it will help release the pain.
If these 2 actions don’t work: see a doctor. 
Some babies cry when darkness comes down: keep him in your arms and sing to him or put relaxing music to comfort him.

You learn when your baby smiles or laughs that he likes what he sees or hears.
Next time that he cries: use what makes him smile or laugh to calm him down.

3.   The most difficult for parents is when your toddler shows his will: his temper.
As your baby grows, so his inner personality grows. His will get stronger and he would want to have his will be done. 
He will use his voice, his cries to get what he wants.
Many parents surrender to their toddlers temper and tantrums and as a result, the young child learns to use his loud voice or cries to control his parents.

DO YOU KNOW THE CONSEQUENCES of SURRENDERING TO A YOUNG CHILD?
He will control you and your life by screaming louder or even hitting you.
It is human nature reactions: the more he can get his will done, the more unsatisfied he will become.
Your life will be chaotic and your child very unhappy.
As adults, you need to lead and guide your child and not the way around.

WHAT IS YOUR ROLE AS ADULTS PARENTS?
I will sum it up as THE EQUALIZERS: you need to balance your child’s inner personality.
    1. If he is sad: CHEER him up by doing things that makes him smile or laugh.
    2. If he is too excited with joy: ask him to read a book or play while waiting for the exciting event.
    3. If he is grumpy: invite him to do something he likes to get him out of his bad mood.
    4. If he shows bad temper and wants to control you: be firm and say NO you will not get it now unless you ask for it nicely.
    5. If he is violent: hitting and kicking: show him your strength by taking him by his arm and bring him to his room. Close the door and tell him that once he will calm down, only he will get out. 
A young child learns who is the adult, the boss in the family and it is not him.

SURRENDER or FIGHT IT THROUGH?
Your child will not stop crying, screaming, kicking the door but know that he is safe and he needs to learn to surrender and calm down.

If he gets out of his room and still crying or screaming at you: take him by his arm and bring him back to his room. REPEAT it until he surrenders.
It may take 5 minutes or 30 but once he understands that he can’t have his ways and control you anymore, next tantrum you will remind him of his TIME OUT and he will give up his tantrums.
Your child will feel secured as he realizes that you are the adults, the parents that protect him even from himself.

THE OUTCOMES OF A BALANCED CHILD
1.   As a tyrannical child is NOT HAPPY as he is unsatisfied and unsecured because his parents don’t equalize him,
A balanced child who knows his position in the family feels secured, satisfied and happy because he knows his parents protect him by surrounding him with boundaries. 

A child knows nothing but he learns from you what is acceptable or not:
Your role as good parents is to protect your children by equalizing their inner personalities and to provide for their survival needs and emotional needs.
a wild child feels unsecured and unsatisfied whereas a balanced child feels SECURED, SATISFIED and HAPPY.